Why I Stopped Being a Fashion Blogger

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I started this blog, originally titled  American Libertine Style, with one focus. As the title implied, it was a fashion blog. I spent hours perusing the latest fashion editorials, the internet, and was glued to the computer to watch live online viewings of fashion shows. WWD was my homepage on my laptop. I also went out of my way to show my face at every local fashion show, even being named one of my city’s 25 Most Stylish last year. I have a closet full of designer goods that I loved to dress in, although I never rubbed it in anyone’s face or acted pretentiously ( at least I don’t think I did).

Something happened to me this past winter that changed everything. I found myself pregnant (surprise), and as quickly as my husband, children, and I wrapped our head around a new baby joining us it was gone. I suffered a miscarriage in November. Since this isn’t a post about that, I won’t dwell on that subject for long. It was at this time that I gained a new perspective on life. You can live a life full of luxury and surround yourself with the best upscale items you can buy, but all of these things still can’t change your destiny. Wrapping yourself in the hottest labels and driving up in the most bad ass whip possible doesn’t make you a better person. I never believed that it did, by the way. However, when you become immersed in the fashion world it is easy to forget that. It is easy to begin to lose sight of the most important facets of life. It is easy to try to keep up with the Jones’ and always have the best shit. If you can manage, for even the shortest duration of time, to step out of the eye of the hurricane you will be able to see clearly.

I don’t want to fall into any materialistic traps of the fashion world. I don’t want to contribute to an industry that is mostly vain, and brings in billions of dollars a year but does hardly anything to give back to the world other than create monsters like Kanye West. That’s another thing-his acceptance with his sex tape darling of a wife Kim K into the fashion world made me want to get out faster than I could say Balenciaga. I worked very hard in college as a disciple of the fashion gospel. Two of the most untalented, shallow, and disgusting asses on the planet bum rush Anna Wintour and now they are a part of this world. It just doesn’t sit well with me!

While I will always like nice things and am a huge advocate of (cruelty free) quality items (because they last forever), I never want to believe that my self worth stems from owning these things. I also never want to find myself on a Swarovski crystal encrusted pedestal looking down on people who don’t have the means to swaddle themselves in designer duds from head to toe. Most importantly, I don’t want to convey that this attitude is alright to my children. I am not as worried about my son, but my daughter is an 8 year old mini me. I noticed behavior in her that I had exhibited for a long time, instant gratification through purchases-aka shopaholic. There is more to life than this!

I was guilty of letting fashion dictate my life. Luckily I woke up and realized that I have more to offer than a cute #OOTD (Outfit of the Day). I can enjoy a beautiful sunset whether my outfit cost $50 or $1000. It doesn’t matter if I am on a run in yoga pants from Neiman Marcus or yoga pants from Target-I am still running. Why had I allowed myself to be dumbed down? It is time to truly embrace life and fully appreciate the life that I live. It is time to stop wishing for things I don’t have, and be grateful for the things I do have.

The best part of this transformation for the blog is that it gives me much more content to write about. Plan to see topics about marriage, parenting, animal welfare, the vegan lifestyle, travel, and more. I hope you are as excited as I am!

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Death by Lilly for Target

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Let me just begin by saying that the Lilly Pulitzer limited collection at Target is the first and last of the designer collaborations that I will participate in as a consumer. I actually read about this particular collaboration right after Christmas , but forgot about it until Friday when the countdown was blasted all over social media. I am a huge night owl, so I made a mental note to visit the website on Sunday early morning since I am usually up quite late on the weekends. I went on with my weekend with my family, including a much needed date night with my husband and a shopping session at Best Buy to gather electronics for our son’s birthday.

Saturday evening I found myself with TIME! Any of you parents out there know exactly what the hell I am talking about. At the moment, I feel like I can not get any privacy from anyone in this damn house. So to suddenly find myself with my husband out of the house working late, both kids asleep, and my laptop beckoning me- I got excited. I won’t even lie. I find shopping one of the most therapeutic activities. At the risk of sounding shallow, it seriously is in my top 5 favorite things to do. I logged on to the Target website at midnight to make a “purchase list”. I really wasn’t going to go crazy, but there was a jumpsuit my daughter wanted with the matching headband and 3 for sure items I wanted in clothing. I also really wanted the little stack of teacups with the stand. Once the list was complete, I waited.

I watched the newest episode of Nurse Jackie. I watched workout videos on YouTube and Instagram. Then I stumbled upon a Facebook group dedicated to nothing but this event, Lilly Pulitzer for Target. Basically, it was mostly women and some men (purchasing for their ladies) all keeping each other updated on news of the launch. From there I learned that Jason Goldberger, the President of Target.com & Mobile, was updating followers on Twitter. So I started watching his tweets to see his updates. Apparently, there was a leak to a link that allowed people to shop prematurely before the official Target launch. A shit ton of people were actually able to put the merchandise in their cart online and check out successfully. I was not one of those fortunate people. The launch commenced at 3am EST, and immediately crashed. Other people from that Facebook group were reporting that they were able to check out, others able to put things in the cart but not checkout, and others who couldn’t even get on the site. By this point, I was exhausted. By 4am, items were already showing up on E Bay. I continued to check the Target site and enjoy my own personal quiet time with no one needing anything from me. By this point, I was pretty sure it was just not going to happen for me. But there was something challenging about it, and I was a huntress. The merchandise was my prey, and I was not going to rest until I had obtained it. Things didn’t quite go the way I had planned, though. I ended up passing out at 5:30 like some kind of crazy crack head trying to buy shit with a stolen credit card, hand resting on the mouse of my laptop and all.

Everyone in my family prefers to stay up late and sleep late. We started waking up around 10 and I immediately checked the website. Everything on my list was sold out, except for Mini Me’s jumpsuit. I ordered it swiftly, having set up my account and saved my payment information pre-launch. I am a big planner….almost to the point of it being strange, almost.

Mini me and I went out late Sunday afternoon to check the aftermath. Fashion rubbernecking, if you will. There was absolutely no sign that this collection even existed, except for the Flamingos hanging in random places throughout the store marking where items in the collection were located. There were no clothes, no accessories, no housewares. But there was one lonely little bottle of nail polish left. My favorite color, turquoise, which has been cleverly named ‘Where’s my Chauffeur’ for this collection.

My take away from the entire Death by Lilly for Target incident is that there comes a time in life when you may think you will only be happy if you can walk away with 4 or 5  garments and some porcelain cups, but end up being just as satisfied with a single bottle of turquoise nail polish. Shame on the greed monsters who scooped up entire racks of clothing and shame on Target.com for not better preparing (this isn’t their first rodeo, afterall). I am thankful for my little bottle of nail polish and for the shit ton of Lilly dresses, pants, skirts, and shirts I already own. Lilly Pulitzer is a southern lady fashion staple. Don’t be fooled, it is not only the WASP types that indulge. Although those chicks definitely see it as some sort of trademark or birthright, and I read some pretty ugly comments from some of them on Twitter. They were not happy preps! On the other hand, I am also glad other ladies who may not be able to afford the normal Lilly price tag can feel pretty and happy in their colorful Lilly Pulitzer for Target dresses. Style isn’t about what you spend or which designer you are wearing. True style is about how it’s all put together and how it makes you feel.

Photo Credit//Target Corporate website

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Transitions

The past year has brought many changes in my life. I find myself entering a new phase which I am all for, because it means I am evolving. This blog will no longer focus on only fashion, although fashion will still be in some of the content in the future. I want to be more relatable of a blogger to my readers, and to people everywhere. Posting about $3,500 YSL handbags and Louboutins isn’t really relatable.

I will write more about this soon. I did want to give a heads up to my followers who may have noticed the change in name and tagline. I am very excited about this change and I think you guys will love it as well! Until next time….xoxo

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St. Patrick’s Day Look

St. Patrick's Day Look

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Pantone Color of the Year 2015: Marsala

I always seek out the Pantone Color of the Year every January. The Pantone website is a great tool for researching color trends as well, if you are an avid fashionista as myself. I must say, Marsala isn’t my favorite color. Hopefully it will grow on me, because I can guarantee that we will see it everywhere this year!

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Photo Credit: http://www.pantone.com

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How To Wear Converse Stylishly

If you do not have a pair of Chuck Taylor‘s in your closet, I would suggest getting a pair ASAP. These sneakers are an American icon, and can be seen on a multitude of personalities from hipsters and rockers to party girls and preps.  There are a shit load of color choices, but if you are stuck on which color to go with first the classic white is a must. They are so inexpensive that you can add more colors to your closet if you like without pulling a Carrie Bradshaw and breaking the bank on shoes. You will wear these sneakers for not only seasons to come, but years to come! They never go out of style. Below you will find a just a few looks that can be conquered with your Chuck Taylor’s. Enjoy!

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*All images pulled from Pinterest except Image #1

*Image #1 photo cred: Atlantic Pacific

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Valentine’s Day 2015

Valentine's Day 2015
Dress//Notte by Marchesa Draped Silk Crepe Mini Dress
Clutch//Jane Taylor Rhinestone Clutch
Bracelet//Crystal Medallion Cuff, similar shown
Earrings//Gold Filligree Earrings, similar shown
Ring//John Hardy Naga 18K Gold ring
Heels//Casadei pumps
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Fall Flats: Charlotte Olympia

I have been wanting a pair of Charlotte Olympia shoes for awhile now, and lucked up this weekend when I found some at a local boutique on major sale (at Coplon’s for you fellow locals). Retail price is $695 and I got them for $175. I couldn’t wait til it’s technically fall, so I’m rocking them today. I love the kitty faces on my toes!!
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Fall Couture 2014 Wrap Up

Here are my top picks for the Couture show looks that just finished up. Clearly, IMO, Zuhair Murad killed it and Ulyana Sergeenko is quickly becoming one of my favorite designers. Enjoy!

Alexandre Vauthier Alexis Mabille jumpsuit Alexis Mabille Armani Prive dress Armani Prive Atelier Versace blue Atelier Versace Bouchra Jarrar Chanel white Chanel Elie Saab dark blue Elie Saab long Elie Saab v neck Giambattista Valli floral Giambattista Valli Maison Martin Margiela Ulyana Sergeenko dress Ulyana sergeenko navy suit Ulyana Sergeenko onesie Ulyana Sergeenko white gown Ulyana Sergeenko Valentino black Valentino vauthier black dress Vauthier Vionnet Zuhair murad 2 Zuhair Murad 3 Zuhair Murad 4 Zuhair Murad 5 Zuhair Murad 6 Zuhair Murad 7 Zuhair Murad 8 Zuhair Murad 9 Zuhair Murad

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